Mrs. Khan regrets her remarks that 'divorce' is woman's mistake...-fusionstories

‘People should consider that in my age, a lot you say in ordinary antagonism and without meaning to it,’ Mrs. Khan defends and regrets about her misogynistic remarks on a TV channel few days back.

‘I’m getting abusive phone calls and direct throw from people since I’ve shown my personal opinion on TV. I feel regret on a way, I presented my backward mindset on media. I could have used softer tone to convey my point.’

While discussing about her recent controversial video which aired from 92 news channel, where she blamed the women for an unsuccessful marriage. She justified herself on getting an opportunity at GEO MORNING show on GEO news.

‘Though I feel that youth should not come to me like the way, I’m being bashed and disapproved on all social media forums,’ she continued.

Mrs. Khan is a professional matchmaker who appears on morning shows regularly to tutor the audience about marriages and its chuck. She has been known as mouthed and old-school character amid delivering his conventional thoughts on TV Shows.

This is not the first time when Mrs. Khan is out and noteworthy with her remarks on choking the modern women on their extra expenditures on brands and parlors.

‘My daughter in law is very sensible. She knows how to save hard-earned money. She manages to buy replica suits from the Sunday market and stitched them to excel as brand in society. That’s why she manages to construct her own house and to shift there in time,’ she expressed it innocent on one of her TV shows when the host and other mates were more grinning at the fact that her daughter in law would have no choice other than to live separate of her.

‘People, at least, should buy an expensive and elegant set of glasses accomplished with a nice-looking tray when they call people to look for ‘Rishta’ at their homes,’ once we heard at Mrs. Khan while  she was discussing why people face the flip side to some good proposals.

‘I never go to the beauty parlor and don’t ever have any facial or such treatments. It’s just a waste of money and time once you indulge in these,’

‘That’s why you look this horrible (issi liye app ka yeh haal hai),’ it was a spontaneous response of host Javeria Saud when Mrs. Khan was expressing her opinion on a morning show at express TV.

She sustained her thoughts while talking to the host Abudullah Sultan and Huma Amir Shah on GEO TV.

‘I didn’t mean to lash any woman, but I strictly believe that girls need to more involved in their husbands and house chaos other than to roam out or remain busy on the phones. My daughter lives with 4 sister-in-laws and she manages to cook for 40 people without the hassle. This is what I taught her. This is what she observed from her grandmother,’ she continued on her recent interview.

When she was asked the question that it’s only the women, who need to educate to peruse a successful marriage. Shouldn’t we school the men in a way?

‘Both have responsibility to endure a marriage, but women requires to show more composed response in any fumed up situation,’ she took a same stance in civilized and softer tone this time.

‘Taking “ijazat” from husband before going out or even going to mother’s house can stretch your wedding peaceful and convenient,’ again she gave another advice to “women”.

If we compare the two recent interviews of Mrs. Khan, the first one where she has to face a strong backlash via Vlogs, articles and direct interaction. She argued that women are responsible for increasing the rate of divorce in Pakistani society as they resist their responsibilities after their marriage. Women are accountable to do all house chaos along with holding back their tongue in any situation to pursue their marriage. Presenting a “Garam roti” and “a pair of slippers” to husbands when they come back from work is essential to carry on your status of “successful wife”.

And the second interview where she just was regret on her bad temper and harsh vocal chords, but she seemed to stand with her thoughts there too.

Unfortunately, Mrs. Khan is a factual representation of the dark side of Pakistani society.  This is a society which demands educated and on job, maids as their daughter in law. A society where men iron their clothes, polish their shoes or even heat or cook their food at the presence of their mothers and sisters before getting marriage, but not only they left all these minor house chaos instant but it hit their “mardangi” on fetching a glass of water by themselves after marriage. All duties of taking care of kids and immediate in-laws are burdened to wife along with bearing verbal, mental or sometimes physical abuse. A “naked sword” of divorce is hung as punishment for not fulfilling any of above responsibility.  

Mrs. Khan showed up her views without wrapping them in any makeup like her personality. You agree with her or not, but women listen on and follow these advices 24/7.

CONCLUSION

Balance is a beauty of nature. Not all, what Mrs. Khan gave out was wrong, but to put the entire responsibility of a failed marriage on a woman is excruciating. Women are fulfilling their duties for centuries and still they are up to manage their lives more balanced than any man. They do cooking, washing and mopping to polishing and ironing for the family. Women now are more composed, tactical and thoughtful to track their marriages than previous woman. It’s time to listen at their problems too when they face bashing for hiring a maid when not a single person at home willing to aid them. It’s time to stand by a woman, who complains of any abuse from her marital life. Working women specially stomach double duties and all time seem to justify them as a good wife and mother. No one considers that how their income used in the improvement of their family. 

Last but not least, when any husband earns and spends on her women, provide her comfort zone, don’t cheat on her and stands with her in hours of any emotional traumas and pressures then “garam roti” and “slipper”  left far apart but woman true worship her husband and sacrifice her life for him and his family. 

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